I’m the youngest in my family and my brothers and sisters are much older than me. I have a big family, I have two brothers and three sisters and I have so many cousins that I have lost count.
When I was only ten years old, I observed how my family members found their future husbands and wives. It was exciting to see that, I was yearning to become old enough to become part of that fun dating scene. I noticed that there was little disappointment and I think about 75% of times, the first date quickly turned into engagement and marriage.
Okay, some of you may be thinking, it couldn’t be so, why such a high success rate?
In my little small town, everyone valued family and friends very much, people would devote some of their time to help out a family members or friends, the opposite of what is happening in our today’s society when people are so busy trying to keep a roof above their heads that they don’t have any time for anything else in their lives. In the old days, family and friends had extra time and they cared a lot about the relationship success of their family members or friends.
So a family member or a friends would go out and ask if anyone knew a good match for their friend and for the most part, their efforts would pay off and and they would set you up on a date. Somehow, the family and friends had a better intuition about who matches you than yourself.
In today’s dating seen, most single people are using dating apps. It is a photo, look at a photo first, then swipe left or right.
There are too many available men, so women are becoming picky, but at the same time they are frustrated because they feel like they are searching for a needle in a haystack.
There are too many men on those dating apps and for the most part, they are being constantly rejected.
Single people spend hours and hours on the dating apps, and the end result in not so good.
I wish we could go back to the old days, when friends and family had the time to help out and find a good match for their friends.
But should you give up on dating? I don’t think so.
Although, today’s dating landscape has changed, and we are much busier than the good old days, we have access to a lot of resources and possible opportunities to improve our emotional intelligence, this way we can make wiser decisions when it comes to inviting someone into our life.
I’m out of the dating seen because currently, dating is not on top of my core value list (I have listed my core values on this article:
However, if my core value happen to change and I was to get back into dating seen, here is what I would do: